There are Doms and Dommes that feel “they shouldn’t have to… .” That they should just say, “Do this everyday,” and have it done everyday without checking to make sure “this” got done. They shouldn’t have to punish, or shouldn’t have to set a routine, or shouldn’t have to, you know, actually dominate their sub.
Now, I’m not going to tell any Dominant what to do with their sub, but I will say that by saying “I shouldn’t have to” anything, outside of something that caters directly to the dynamic, you are probably hurting your relationship, and your sub. You are better off saying, “I don’t want to.”
I’m telling you, that is so much easier for a sub to accept.
If you require something of your sub that they do not already enjoy doing, like washing the dishes for example. Yes, it is your job, as the Dominant, to make sure it gets done. Period. If you don’t want to tell them everyday to wash the dishes, give them a reason to wash the dishes, be it reward or punishment, and odds are those dishes are going to get done. After it becomes a habit, you won’t have to check up on it as often, or not at all.
It really isn’t complicated.
I also feel it is very important for the Dominant to enjoy what they do (or at the very least, the outcome of what they do) within their D/s relationship. Make it a game. Use the reward or punishment to your benefit. Have fun with it, for goodness sake.
If it isn’t fun, if you hate it and feel like you “shouldn’t have to,” then don’t do it, say you are not going to, and let it go.
I will add, this is my opinion and you don’t have to agree with me. I’m sure I left out some stuff I will later regret not saying. I am happy to hear what you think, even if you disagree.