I have written a little bit about punishment before, but it is a topic I really enjoy talking about, so here we are.
Does D/s (or any variation of) have to have punishment?
Yeah, I think it does.
Merriam-Webster defines punishment as…
1: the act of punishing
2 a : suffering, pain, or loss that serves as retribution
b : a penalty inflicted on an offender through judicial procedure
3: severe, rough, or disastrous treatment
Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t disappointing your Dom-type a painful penalty of wrongdoing? Is it not suffering? When a sub is reprimanded, isn’t that a form of punishment?
If you ask me, yes.
This is part of what makes a sub strive to be better. If there was no guilt for doing wrong, I imagine nothing would change, they would not grow. If they are not reprimanded they don’t know they did something wrong.
I don’t see how D/s can work without that. I’d enjoy hearing from anyone who has a different view.
Personally, I LOVE the more active(?) type of punishments. Spanking, beating, denying, humiliating, given a tedious task, torture of any kind… oh there are so many ways and they are all so wonderful. Okay, maybe that is an exaggeration, there are probably one or two out there that I wouldn’t like to dish out. Nevertheless, it’s like being a kid in a candy store.
Punishing my sub is a way of showing I care. I want them to be the best they can be. I want our relationship to be the best it can be.
It is a way to move past the infraction. Not just for the sub, but for me as well. Guilt is a heavy burden for some sub-types to carry, how will they be able to be their best while carrying around all that weight? Well, they won’t, and I’m not down with that. If I am truly hurt or offended by something my sub does, how wonderful it will be to rid myself of that by “getting payback”!
I also think it will be great fun to put them in a situation that will end with me punishing them no matter what. You know, add a little spice to the day, just for fun.
And, not to mention, it is a HUGE turn on for me.
*dreamy sigh* I love punishments.