I love being a Dominant.
Having control over someone and using that control, arouses me and pumps life into my veins.
I like using whatever I can as a means to further my experience and make my sub feel submissive. I will definitely do things (kink, D/s related, as well as vanilla) that my sub enjoys doing, that doesn’t make me less dominant. I use the tools that work for those involved.
I classify myself as Femdom, because I am a kinky, female dominant.
If I have to give my sub a look, reprimand them, or punish them to get them back in line (feel free to read as: feel more submissive), I will do that because it benefits both of us and I have fun with it. If I have to do this, it doesn’t fucking mean that my sub is incompetent in any way (I would not allow someone that is incompetent a spot at my feet), it means they need a little motivation and/or correction (to better benefit the relationship). News flash, we all need motivation at some point. I am happy to motivate people I care about, and I like using my Dominance to motivate my sub because I love being dominant.
None of this is a burden or something I feel like I have to do. I want it.
I enjoy being mean to people I care about, that have consented to that treatment. I like seeing fear and worry in their eyes. I like them to feel embarrassed. I like to hear them scream and moan, at my hand. I like to see them wiggle and squirm. I even like it when they try to get away from me — I find it amusing that they think they can get away or hide from me. I like it when they resist, because it gives me opportunity to use the power I have.
When my sub steps away from their wants and does what I want instead, I find that extremely romantic. It is difficult to put into words how much I appreciate that kind of submission. It gives great meaning to the act. Yes, on a deep level this is what the sub wants (if they don’t want it, I won’t push them), but it takes strength to get there. I do not take it for granted.
This, in part, is me.