Day 2 – Describe what you are looking for in a submissive and the techniques you might use to instill those characteristics in your submissive. Are you exclusively Dominant in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you Dominant only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you Dominant to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?
I could go two ways with the first bit. It depends on if I was working with my husband or if I was trying to find someone new. It will be more interesting and fun (not to mention, less depressing) to talk about finding someone new, so I’m going to go that route.
First off (because I’m an overthinker)…
I’d look for someone with personality.
I like to smile and laugh, I don’t want someone that pulls me down with negativity.
I want someone smart.
I want someone of integrity.
I want someone that is willing to be vulnerable.
I want someone that isn’t arrogant and takes pride in what they do.
I want someone with good hygiene.
I want someone who cares about the health of their body and soul.
I want someone with a strong mind.
There’s bound to be more, but I think you get the gist.
Once I found someone that met those wants, if we matched up enough on wants and needs within D/s and we liked each other enough to start a relationship, then I could work on instilling habits and actions I’d like to see.
What I want past that is pretty simple…
I want to be adored, respected, and loved. And, I want obedience.
How would I go about getting that?
I’d use trust, respect, love, communication, and time. There would also be a little bit (ahem) of pain and suffering too — you know, because I’m a hopeless romantic.
As for the other questions…
I do not want to be bedroom only.
I am Dominant within a relationship and
I am a mother in charge of her kids. Outside of that, I can’t say I’m dominant.
I believe I could have fun with play partners, however I’m quite sure it would not be very fulfilling.